@micheleparry Hi Michele, it sounds like you have similar skin to my partner, his skin used to go red and flakey even when using cetaphil or QV. He was took scared to try anything else.
I since have looked into Clinque and to my surprise, the men’s range of skincare has cleared up the redness and stop the skin from flaking. He uses the oil control mattifying moisturizer at night, and for the day the SPF 21 moisturizer. Now I get this is the mens range, surely there is a version for women, I suggest that you try clinque, perhaps try and get a sample to try.
(@AdoreBeauty maybe you could help?) Good luck, i hope you find something.